Gary Sales found out he had stage three bladder cancer and a fifty/fifty survival rate in March 2016. The discovery quickly sent him into a dark spiral of depression of which he was certain he would never reemerge from. Alive and happier than ever, three years on, Gary explains how it was football which eventually pulled him from his darkest times and helped him on his road to recovery.
“Hearing I had Cancer sent me in to instant shock,” Gary recalls. “It became very real when I had to tell my mum- that is when the tears started streaming. I realised I had a fight on my hands – got all my life insurance and dropped all work projects.”
He had initially thought he was just dehydrated from working long days in London when he had first experienced symptoms. However, it was a blood clot which appeared a few months later that forced him to get to the doctors.
“If I had left my symptoms another few months then it would have probably been stage four, so going to the doctors that day saved my life.”
Gary had initially only been told by the hospital that he could not travel to a work commitment in New York when he presented them with his abnormal symptoms. Just days later, however, he was told he had Cancer.
“Luckily it was contained within the bladder,” he explains. “This meant there was a much better chance of a successful surgery.”
Three years on, an invasive operation and lots of treatment later, Gary is now close to the all clear. Founding the local village football team, ‘Real Haynes’, is what he says helped him through it all.
“Our first training session was in about thirty degree heat and about 18 guys turned up, including my son. I had got to a point in my treatment where I was feeling very down. To please myself I thought of what I loved- football. I knew that with my condition (and after too many cheese sandwiches) I would not necessarily be able to play anymore.”
He decided he would manage a new local club. In time, emotionally and spiritually, the team began to make him happy. Good times were back and the football had brought that.
“ I now expect to be classed a survivor of cancer very soon, and football has helped me through the journey. Whilst cancer initially sent me to a dark place, it also helped me reform a relationship with a sport I have always loved. I love the banter, the changing room politics and thinking of the new tactics needed every week to keep us winning. I find winning addictive.”
Unquestionably, football is a sport which has the power to bring happiness and fulfilment to many. The popularity of the sport is patently clear – the sheer numbers of people showing up to games, watching it on the telly and being part of teams in general demonstrates the power it holds over many. Clearly, the sense of community within the game has the ability to pull people from emotional distress, like it has for Gary.
If you find yourself in a time of despair, and have ever enjoyed sport, I sincerely hope you get yourself involved. Football or not, sport allows people to connect and gain a sense of purpose- which is obviously great for personal well- being. For Gary, football brought him through his own mental traumas, but any sport could have the same positive impact on anyone. Feeling down? Game on. Get yourself involved .